“I lost myself. I said it wouldn’t happen, but it did. And the thing is, I am not just talking about the obvious – about forgetting what real clothes look like and how to have a conversation with other adults that doesn’t mention children. I am talking about forgetting who I was. What my real name is – not “mom” – my actual name and what I need. And as I was in the process of losing myself I kept thinking that this was what I was supposed to be doing. “The kids are still young. There will be time to start living again when they get older,” people would say. Well, you know what? They were wrong. As moms, it’s not part of our job to fade away into the background and disappear. It’s not part of the job to put our lives on hold till the kids reach 18 and leave the house. Where does it say that? I found there was a secret code no one talked about – it was like a competition of who has it the worst. Who is working the hardest? Who is wearing the most hats and juggling the most plates up in the air? It is such an exhausting reality, and one that weighs down so many women, yet it’s so hard to break out of that cycle.”
― F*cked at 40: Life Beyond Suburbia, Monogamy and Stretch Marks
― F*cked at 40: Life Beyond Suburbia, Monogamy and Stretch Marks
“the search for beauty isn’t always associated with anything practical and yet we still search for it as if it were the most important thing in the world.”
― The Witch of Portobello
― The Witch of Portobello
“There will always be people in life who tell you no and sometimes it’s because they have nothing else to do that day except exert their power, and if you let their no stop you, you’ve just validated their opinion of you as worth more than your own.”
― I Know What I'm Doing and Other Lies I Tell Myself: Dispatches from a Life Under Construction
― I Know What I'm Doing and Other Lies I Tell Myself: Dispatches from a Life Under Construction
“We all work for some reason: to feed our children, to earn money to support ourselves, to justify our life, to get a little bit of power. However, there are always tedious stages in that process, and the secret lies in transforming those stages into an encounter with ourselves or with something higher.”
― The Witch of Portobello
― The Witch of Portobello
“Everything is at once so simple and so complicated! It’s simple because all it takes is a change of attitude: I’m not going to look for happiness anymore. From now on, I’m independent; I see life through my eyes and not through other people’s. I’m going in search of the adventure of being alive.”
― The Witch of Portobello
― The Witch of Portobello
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