we make other people into validation vending machines for our self-worth, lovability, and value. And equally naturally, we try to get the vending machine to spit out the validation we want—and then get mad or sad when the vending machine
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“The more grounded confidence parents have, the more likely they are to prepare their child for the path by teaching courage, praising effort, and modeling grit, versus trying to prepare a perfect path for their child by fixing, praising only results, and intervening.”
― Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
― Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
“Building the grounded confidence to rumble with vulnerability and discomfort rather than armoring up, running away, shutting down, or tapping out, completely prepares you for living into your values, building trust, and learning to rise.”
― Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
― Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.
“There are always miracles in the world, even when it seems dark.”
― The Happiest Man on Earth: The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor
― The Happiest Man on Earth: The Beautiful Life of an Auschwitz Survivor
“Charles Feltman. Feltman describes trust as “choosing to risk making something you value vulnerable to another person’s actions,” and he describes distrust as deciding that “what is important to me is not safe with this person in this situation (or any situation).”
― Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
― Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
“According to a 2008 study by the National Sleep Foundation, American adults now get two hours less sleep per night than the average in 1960.”
― The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It
― The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It
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