Vivien
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‘Harry, suffering like this proves you are still a man! This pain is part of being human –’
“We can start healing when we stop trying to get our pain validated by the people who caused us harm. So often we look for external validation from those who aren't emotionally capable of seeing the pain they caused and may never be capable of doing that in his lifetime.”
― Are You Mad at Me?
― Are You Mad at Me?
“The experience of what we're feeling is real, but the thoughts surrounding those feelings aren't always true.”
― Are You Mad at Me?
― Are You Mad at Me?
“I am allowed to feel this emotion. Nothing is wrong with me for feeling this. I acknowledge my emotions and allow them to move through me.”
― Are You Mad at Me?
― Are You Mad at Me?
“Moving forward isn't synonymous with "getting over it" or shoving aside your emotions. It means allowing yourself to see and hold the pain in ways that you wish the other person could. It means moving forward while feeling the loss. It's not getting over the loss so that you can move forward; it's moving forward with the feeling of loss, soothing it whenever it arises.”
― Are You Mad at Me?
― Are You Mad at Me?
“When conflict is constantly brushed under the rug, though, the person who decides to lift up the rug and address the issues—the person who’s healing—is naturally going to have a harder time believing their own experiences because no one else is there to say, “Yeah, that did happen, and what you’re feeling makes sense.” The child who’s called “dramatic” is made to feel like they’re the problem, but really, they’re often just the one communicating the problem that others aren’t willing to look at.”
― Are You Mad at Me?
― Are You Mad at Me?
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