Rya Laine

“1. Value my ability to see the world from a unique perspective.
(Find ways to appreciate and make the most of my strengths, even when I annoy you).

2. Remember, we need compelling problems to solve, not just chores to do.
(Don't be the "big boss." I'll respect your authority more when you tell me the point).

3. Ask for my input; keep me in the informational loop.
(Give me some ownership in the process and the outcome).

4. Protect our relationship - you won't get much from me without one.
(Respect and value who I am, and I'll cooperate with you most of the time).

5. Smile at me more often.
(Keep your sense of humor and try to smile, even when you don't like me).

6. Don't let me push you around, but don't push me around either.
(Don't be afraid to stand up to me; just don't run over me).

7. Speak to me respectfully, but firmly.
(Use your voice wisely; it's a powerful resource).

8. Choose your battles - don't sweat the small stuff.
(Decide what's really worth it).

9. Give me some control over my own life and circumstances.
(Allow me to share control with our surrendering your authority).

10. Remind me how much you love me.
(Find subtle ways to keep reminding me your love will always be there).”
― Cynthia Ulrich Tobias, You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded): Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child

“When you love a thing too much, it is a special kind of pain to show it to others and to see that it is lacking.”
― Nghi Vo, When the Tiger Came Down the Mountain

“I have a saying: Disappointment is a function of unreasonable expectations.”
― Kamala Harris, 107 Days

“The act of writing fiction or poetry has been compared to dreaming,” he told his students, “but I don’t think that’s entirely accurate. I think it’s more akin to hypnosis. The more you ritualize the preparation, the easier you’ll find it to enter that state.”
― Stephen King, If It Bleeds