“A lot of people describe having sex with only one person as 'being faithful'.
It seems to me that faithfulness has very little to do with who you have sex with.
Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own.”
― The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
It seems to me that faithfulness has very little to do with who you have sex with.
Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own.”
― The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
“Most of us need some support in asking for what we want. When we are involved in making agreements, we need to feel sure that the needs we reveal will not be held against us. Most of us feel pretty vulnerable in and around our emotional limits, so it’s important to recognize that these limits are valid: “I need to feel loved,” “I need to feel that I’m important to you,” “I need to know that you find me attractive,” “I need you to listen and care about me when I feel hurt.”
― The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
― The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
“So it’s still New York. People can’t give up on it. It’s what economists used to call the tyranny of sunk costs: once you’ve put so much time and money into a project, it gets hard to just eat your losses and walk. You are forced by the structure of the situation to throw good money after bad, grow obsessed, double down, escalate your commitment, and become a mad gibbering apartment dweller, unable to imagine leaving. You persevere unto death, a monomaniacal New Yorker to the end.”
― New York 2140
― New York 2140
“Love is not a real-world limit: the mother of nine children can love each of them as much as the mother of an only child.”
― The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
― The Ethical Slut : A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures
“Women of my generation were given the lavish gift of our own agency by feminism—a belief that we could decide for ourselves how we would live, what would become of us.”
― The Rules Do Not Apply
― The Rules Do Not Apply
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