Teresa

“Self-boundaries are a gift from Present You to Future You, and if that gift isn’t what Future You needs, exchange it for something better.”
― Melissa Urban, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free

“Letting go of the friendship can feel like you’re letting go of a piece of your own history—and many friendships last far longer than they should for that very reason. There’s a psychological fallacy that likely plays in here: the Sunk Cost Fallacy. It describes our tendency to stick with a task, job, or relationship because we have already invested time, effort, or money in it, regardless of how well (or not well) it’s working for us now. It’s a big part of why we continue to hold on to long-standing friendships, even if the other person is no longer a good friend. “We have history. We’ve been through a lot together! I can’t just throw that all away!” Can’t you, though?”
― Melissa Urban, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free

“Remember that the next time you’re tempted to feel guilty for setting a boundary at work—you’re a true team player because you’re helping to create a workplace culture in which everyone thrives.”
― Melissa Urban, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free

“People reacting this badly to your boundaries means you’re revoking a privilege they were never meant to have.”
― Melissa Urban, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free