Carey

“For many women,' she said, 'having a child is their central experience of creativity, and yet the child will never remain a created object; unless,' she said, 'the mother's sacrifice of herself is absolute, which mine never could have been, and which no woman's ought to be these days. My own mother lived through me in a way that was completely uncritical,' she said, 'and the consequence was that I came into adulthood unprepared for life, because nobody saw me as important in the way she did, which was the way I was used to being seen. And then you meet a man who thinks you're important enough to marry you, so it seems right that you should say yes. But it is when you have a baby that the feeling of importance really returns,' she said, with growing passion, 'except that one day you realise that all this - the house, the husband, the child - isn't importance after all, in fact it is the exact opposite: you have become a slave, obliterated!”
― Rachel Cusk, Outline

“He keeps her because he loves her, despite the fact she is destructive, and there is a value for her too in his attention, though its consequence is her captivity.”
― Rachel Cusk, Outline

“Men go through life telling themselves a moment must come when they will show what they're made of. And the moment comes, and they do show. And they spend the rest of their days explaining that was neither the moment nor the true self.”
― Shirley Hazzard, The Transit of Venus

“At first, there is something you expect of life. Later, there is what life expects of you. By the time you realize these are the same, it can be too late for expectations. What we are being, not what we are to be. They are the same thing.”
― Shirley Hazzard