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“one day, the rejected parent, like the banished soul child, returns in the sound of our own heartbeat, announcing that it’s time for shadow-work. These are the first steps in re-mothering and re-fathering ourselves, separating out our identities from those of our parents, from our inner parents’ voices, and from the larger cultural and archetypal influences. Only then can we provide ourselves as adults with those essential qualities and authentic feelings that we may have missed as children and that will nourish our souls.”
― Connie Zweig, Romancing the Shadow: A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life

“By re-creating the past, the shadow tries to help us to feel safe, cared for, and loved. It attempts to achieve these ends by re-creating with a lover the primordial unity we felt in early life with a parent. Then we unconsciously transfer responsibility for our survival from our parents to our partners. And we imagine that our partners will love us the way our parents never did, nurturing our deepest needs and fulfilling our deepest desires.”
― Connie Zweig, Romancing the Shadow: A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life

“And what did you want? To call myself beloved, to feel myself beloved on the earth.”
― Raymond Carver

“In therapy, Barbara did the slow, steady work of sorting through her father complex: She recognized how much she was like him and how much she disowned him. Eventually, she discovered that”
― Connie Zweig, Romancing the Shadow: A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life