Jenny Rutledge

“We were both quiet. No rainbows in the house. This little four-year-old had just articulated the perfect way to think about the mission of our work. Storms will come—they inevitably do. But in the aftermath, there can be something beautiful. But you only get to the rainbow by going through a storm.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

“couples have always gone through these kinds of “pressure cooker” times. Times when things, for whatever reason, get especially hard. When every little thing seems to spark a fight. When the fights feel awful. When you say things you regret. When you wish you could have a do-over.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

“There’s nothing more fulfilling in therapy than watching two people find each other again.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy

“When a “regrettable incident” has been encoded and stored in memory, it can be both at an implicit and explicit level, and it can alter how we feel about another person in ways that persist for long periods of time following the experience.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy