Jenny Rutledge

“We don't fall in love with people because they're good people. We fall in love with people whose darkness we recognise. You can fall in love with a person for all of the right reasons, but that kind of love can still fall apart. But when you fall in love with a person because your monsters have found a home in them-- that's the kind of love that owns your skin and bones. Love, I am convinced, is found in the darkness. It is the candle in the night.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“couples have always gone through these kinds of “pressure cooker” times. Times when things, for whatever reason, get especially hard. When every little thing seems to spark a fight. When the fights feel awful. When you say things you regret. When you wish you could have a do-over.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

“Validation is not the same thing as agreement.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

“There’s nothing more fulfilling in therapy than watching two people find each other again.”
― Julie Schwartz Gottman, 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy