Henn

“If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback.”
― Brené Brown

“People frequently believe the creative life is grounded in fantasy. The more difficult truth is that creativity is grounded in reality, in the particular, the focused, the well observed or specifically imagined. As we lose our vagueness about our self, our values, our life situation, we become available to the moment. It is there, in the particular, that we contact the creative self. Until we experience the freedom of solitude, we cannot connect authentically. We may be enmeshed, but we are not encountered. Art lies in the moment of encounter: we meet our truth and we meet ourselves; we meet ourselves and we meet our self-expression. We become original because we become something specific: an origin from which work flows.”
― Julia Cameron, The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity

“The Women Who Walk Us Home

The ones who arrive with a bag of clothes, four
tired lemons, half a story from her sister's trip to
Paraguay. The ones who keep our secrets and
whose secrets we keep in potted plants, in
every ocean we've ever known. The ones who
know our husbands, their little pleasures. Our
lovers and our scars. The ones who stay, hope
like a moth. Who stare into the gaping tomb
and are not afraid of its unveiling. The ones who
will be there, even then (even then), to walk us
home.”
― Kate Baer, What Kind of Woman: Poems

“And what is true for human beings is true for every living thing: all organisms require alternating periods of growth and equilibrium. Any person or system exposed to ceaseless novelty and change risks falling into chaos; but one that is too rigid or static ceases to grow and eventually dies. This never-ending dance between change and stability is like the anchor and the waves. Adult relationships mirror these dynamics all too well. We seek a steady, reliable anchor in our partner. Yet at the same time we expect love to offer a transcendent experience that will allow us to soar beyond our ordinary lives. The challenge for modern couples lies in reconciling the need for what’s safe and predictable with the wish to pursue what’s exciting, mysterious, and awe-inspiring.”
― Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence