Nuno Roso

“WHEN TO EYEBROW RAISE To encourage someone to speak up. Do you work with or spend time with a serious introvert? Introverts may struggle with sharing their ideas. You can encourage them to share with an eyebrow raise in their direction. A quick raise shows them that you would like to hear from them without calling them out. Use an eyebrow raise any time you want to show curiosity or interest. Use it to greet someone you like. WHEN NOT TO EYEBROW RAISE If someone is pushing your buttons, keep those eyebrows down. An eyebrow raise will only encourage them to keep doing what they’re doing. Don’t do it too often. You do not want to look permanently surprised. In Japan, the eyebrow raise is used to indicate romantic interest. Therefore, if you’re in Japan, suppress it in professional situations. WARMTH CUE #4: Savor Smiles Here’s something that won’t surprise you at all: We’re 9.7 times more likely to be seen as warm when we’re smiling.23 A smile is a pure warmth cue. But what might surprise you is that smiling is not just about warmth or happiness. It’s also about engagement. Smiling makes you more memorable.”
― Vanessa Van Edwards, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication

“highly charismatic leaders and found they use nonverbal cues to move, inspire, or captivate others.24 And their presence is contagious. Their confidence breeds confidence in others. They’re also characterized by their ability to both decode the emotional needs of others and encode the right cues to inspire and spur emotion in others. When the researchers showed videotaped speeches of leaders to participants and asked them to rate the speakers on their charisma, they found that the highest-rated speakers blended both competence cues and warmth cues. They: Used dynamic hand and body gestures. Showed more erect posture. Maintained eye contact, especially at the end of statements. Had a more open body and didn’t engage in blocking behaviors. Nodded more. Were more emotionally expressive through their facial expressions, gestures, and tone of voice (there will be more on this in the section on vocal cues). Invited others to speak up. Sat at the head of the table. Had a greater repertoire of cues and strategies to express themselves. Touched themselves less but touched others more.”
― Vanessa Van Edwards, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication

“Honor Any Humor Don’t feel pressure to be funny. It’s great if you can create humor, but it’s even better if you can honor other people’s humor. Always be ready to laugh. Think of a laugh like a compliment. It’s telling someone you appreciate them. PRINCIPLE”
― Vanessa Van Edwards, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication

“WARMTH CUE #6: Mirroring Makes You Magnetic”
― Vanessa Van Edwards, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication