Emmanuel Olalere

“When you need validation, ask for it specifically. It’s obviously best to talk with someone who already knows how to validate, but if the person you talk to doesn’t, you can still point them in the right direction. For example, you might say: “Hey I’m feeling stressed right now and need some validation. Can I vent for a minute? I don’t want feedback or any suggestions for fixing it. I’d just like you to hear me out and help me not feel crazy.” I”
― Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships

“The three C’s, as I like to call them, are the real cornerstones to not only implementing a new milestone or behaviour, but to speed the process up for you and to ensure the behaviour lasts. These are as follows: Commitment: Once you make a decision to implement a new milestone or behaviour you need to really commit to it. You will get better and faster results by sticking to the plan. Consistency: Be consistent, once you commit to a new milestone or behaviour, make sure you stick to it. Repeat your steps/actions until successful and then the key is to maintain it. It usually takes around 3 days to start seeing the fruits of your labour. One vital note here is to make sure everyone involved in the child’s day to day care is singing off the same hymn sheet and not undoing all your hard work. Credit: Positive reinforcement is the final key to maintaining the desired effect. Focus on what it is you want them to do, not what you don’t want them to do. When they do it, be sure to celebrate this with them and praise the behaviour to encourage more of the same.”
― Charlotte Scarbrow, What Every Parent Should Know: The fast track to take control and gain confidence in your parenting style, from before baby arrives to the toddler years: Parenting must knows for raising children

“The first point to remember is that if you are travelling west to east then the jet lag will be worse than if you were going from east to west. Just remember: "West is best, east is a beast". The reason for this is because our internal body clocks are a little longer than 24 hours, so it is easier for us to stay up longer than it is to fall asleep earlier than we are use to.”
― Charlotte Scarbrow, What Every Parent Should Know: The fast track to take control and gain confidence in your parenting style, from before baby arrives to the toddler years: Parenting must knows for raising children

“Ignoring, dismissing, or suppressing your emotions doesn’t get rid of them; it buries them. It tucks them away to fester and arise again at a later time. When you recognize and validate your emotions instead, you strip away the judgment—the “I’m bad,” “this is wrong,” or “I shouldn’t” responses—and allow your experiences to flow through you. It helps you quell the inner critic and live a more present and enjoyable life.”
― Michael S. Sorensen, I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships