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“In health, then, children develop enough belief in themselves and in
other people to hate external controls of all kinds, controls have changed
over into self-control. In self-control the conflict has been worked
through within the person in advance. So I see it this way: good condi-
tions in the early stages lead to a sense of security, and a sense of security
leads on to seIf-control, and when selfcontrol is a fact, then security that
is imposed is an insult (36).”
― D.W. Winnicott

“In essence, the idea is to let your body fall asleep while you keep your mind awake.”
― Stephen LaBerge, Lucid Dreaming: A Concise Guide to Awakening in Your Dreams and in Your Life

“Perseverance is a virtue of the less brilliant.”
― Santiago Ramón y Cajal

“In my view, if you don’t understand how repression operates, real growth is nearly impossible since you’re unlikely to come into contact with that pain you’re warding off. Even if you’re able to overcome some kind of maladaptive behavior or thought pattern, you’re likely to develop another equally maladaptive strategy to keep the repressed at bay. Freud always insisted that unconscious material is “indestructible.” Just because you’re not consciously aware of how much anger you feel toward your father, that doesn’t mean the anger has disappeared. It will inevitably continue to make its presence known in covert ways – humorous little digs, for instance, or sarcasm.”
― Joseph Burgo, Why Do I Do That?