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“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable." ~~~~ Mark Manson”
― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

“لماذا تخلقُ الطبيعةُ أفضلَ الناسِ لتسخرَ منهم بعدَ ذلك؟ هذا ما تعمدُ إليهِ الطبيعة: حينَ أظهرتِ البشرَ على الإنسانِ الوحيد الذي عُدَّ الإنسانَ الكاملَ في هذا العالَم، عهِدتْ إليهِ برسالةِ أنْ ينطقَ بأقوالٍ كانتْ سببًا في سفحِ دماءٍ بلغتْ مِنَ الغزارةِ أنها لو سُفحتْ مرّةً واحدةً لخنقتِ الإنسانية! إنها لسعادةٌ أنْ أموت! ذلكَ أنّني إذا لم أمتْ فقد يُطلقُ لساني كذبةً رهيبةً بدافعٍ مِنَ الطبيعة!... أنا لم أُفسدْ أحدًا.. لقد أردتُ أنْ أحيا لسعادةِ الناسِ جميعًا... أردتُ أنْ أحيا لاكتشافِ الحقيقةِ ونشرها... فماذا كانتِ النتيجة؟ لا شيء! كانتِ النتيجةُ أنكم تحتقرونني. هذا دليلٌ على أنّني غبيٌّ أحمق، على أنّني امرؤٌ لاخيرَ فيهِ ولا فائدةَ منه، وعلى أنّني قد آنَ لي أنْ أزول! وحينَ أزول، فلن أُخلفَ ورائي أيّة ذكرى: لن أتركَ أيَّ صدى، لن أتركَ أيََ أثر، لن أتركَ أيَّ عمل! لم أنشرْ أيَّ رأي، لم أُذِعْ أيّة قناعة! لا تضحكوا من غبيٍّ أحمق! انسَوه! انسَوا كلَّ شيء! أرجوكم أنْ تنسَوا! لاتكونوا قساةً!”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, الأبله، الجزء الأول

“It is easy to mourn the lives we aren't living. Easy to wish we'd developed other other talents, said yes to different offers. Easy to wish we'd worked harder, loved better, handled our finances more astutely, been more popular, stayed in the band, gone to Australia, said yes to the coffee or done more bloody yoga.
It takes no effort to miss the friends we didn't make and the work we didn't do the people we didn't do and the people we didn't marry and the children we didn't have. It is not difficult to see yourself through the lens of other people, and to wish you were all the different kaleidoscopic versions of you they wanted you to be. It is easy to regret, and keep regretting, ad infinitum, until our time runs out.
But it is not lives we regret not living that are the real problem. It is the regret itself. It's the regret that makes us shrivel and wither and feel like our own and other people's worst enemy.
We can't tell if any of those other versions would of been better or worse. Those lives are happening, it is true, but you are happening as well, and that is the happening we have to focus on.”
― Matt Haig, The Midnight Library

“تنفّست الصعداء، و توقف قلبها عن الغفران.”
― Jokha Alharthi, Celestial Bodies