“It’s very hard for us to believe that people who loved us would intentionally hurt us, so we feel the need to excuse their behavior. But repressing that pain just makes us more likely to hit our own children. If you were willing to reach deep inside and really feel again the hurt you felt when you were physically punished as a child, you would never consider inflicting that pain on your own child. And the pain does not end in childhood, even if we repress and deny it. The scientific consensus of hundreds of studies shows that corporal punishment during childhood is associated with negative behaviors in adults, even when the adult says that the spanking did not affect them badly. Even a few instances of being hit as a child are associated with more depressive symptoms as an adult. While most of us who were spanked “turned out okay,” it is clear that not being spanked would have helped us turn out to be healthier. I suspect that one contributing factor to the epidemic of anxiety and depression among adults in our culture is that so many of us grew up with parents who hurt us.”
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
“The dirty little secret about punishment is that it doesn’t work to teach children better behavior. In fact, studies show that punishment creates more bad behavior. Not just that children who behave badly get punished more, but that children who get punished more will behave badly more often over time.1 That’s because punishment teaches all the wrong lessons.”
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
“Kids raised from birth on to feel safe expressing their emotions, who feel their parents are on their side, aren’t perfect. They’re easier to parent, though, because they’re better at managing their emotions, and therefore their behavior. They’re more willing to accept our guidance.”
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
“Sometimes our child’s strong emotions are triggered by essential needs that go unmet, needs the child can’t verbalize. Most parents focus on physical needs like sleep, food, and cleanliness. But often we forget their deeper needs:”
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
“The more often we get angry, the more defended our child becomes, and therefore the less likely to show that it bothers her. Anger pushes children of all ages away from us. It practically guarantees that they’ll have an “attitude” by the time they’re ten, and that yelling fights will be the norm during their teen years. The unfortunate result of yelling is a child who is less likely to want to please you and is more open to the influences of the peer group and the larger culture.”
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
― Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
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