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“Nothing clarifies boundaries more than forgiveness. To forgive someone means to let him off the hook, or to cancel a debt he owes you. When you refuse to forgive someone, you still want something from that person, and even if it is revenge that you want, it keeps you tied to him forever.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

“Since the Fall, our instincts have been to withdraw from relationship when we’re in trouble, when we most need other people. (Remember”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

“You will be amazed how much can change in your life when you finally begin to let go of what you can never have.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

“How often do we hear the statement that “God loves the sinner, but hates the sin”? It’s true. His love is constant and “never fails” (1 Cor. 13:8). When parents detach from a misbehaving young child instead of staying connected and dealing with the problem, God’s constant love is misrepresented. When parents pull away in hurt, disappointment, or passive rage, they are sending this message to their youngster: You’re loveable when you behave. You aren’t loveable when you don’t behave.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No