Eva

“Malgré les chiffres faramineux – on parle a minima de 200 000 grossesses précocement arrêtées chaque année en France 3 –, le tabou constitué par cet événement, dans l’absence manifeste de récit social collectif, suscite une solitude extrême à un moment où le corps et la psyché des femmes enceintes sont soumis, brutalement, à un deuil, à un changement de paradigme et de projection intégral. On pensait donner la vie, la porter, être dans un temps absolument métaphysique et heureux de l’existence et de la transmission, et l’on se retrouve dans le deuil de ce projet de maternité, d’un coup. On sentait son corps changer et réagir, les seins grossir, les entrailles se réorganiser complètement et, d’un coup, les seins dégonflent, on ne sent plus rien. La fausse couche est l’expérience du vide, de la fin, d’un abysse d’autant plus indescriptible qu’il n’est jamais décrit, qu’aucun discours ne lui donne corps.”
― Judith AQUIEN, Trois mois sous silence

“I was never quite sure what all these critics thought I was supposed to be doing—a Bob Dylan impression? I was a teenage girl from the South. I signed my name with a heart. I liked looking cute. Why did everyone treat me, even when I was a teenager, like I was dangerous?”
― Britney Spears, The Woman in Me

“Was I mad at being “outed” by him as sexually active? No. To be honest with you, I liked that Justin said that. Why did my managers work so hard to claim I was some kind of young-girl virgin even into my twenties? Whose business was it if I’d had sex or not?

I’d appreciated it when Oprah told me on her show that my sexuality was no one else’s business, and that when it came to virginity, “you don’t need a world announcement if you change your mind.”

Yes, as a teenager I played into that portrayal, because everyone was making such a big deal out of it. But if you think about it, it was pretty stupid for people to describe my body in that way, for them to point to me and say, “Look! A virgin!” It’s nobody’s business at all. And it took the focus off me as a musician and performer. I worked so hard on my music and on my stage shows. But all some reporters could think of to ask me was whether or not my breasts were real (they were, actually) and whether or not my hymen was intact.”
― Britney Spears, The Woman in Me

“Unfortunately, there wasn’t the same conversation about mental health back then that there is now. I hope any new mothers reading this who are having a hard time will get help early and will channel their feelings into something more healing than white marble floors. Because I now know that I was displaying just about every symptom of perinatal depression: sadness, anxiety, fatigue. Once the babies were born, I added on my confusion and obsession about the babies’ safety, which was ratcheting up the more media attention was on us. Being a new mom is challenging enough without trying to do everything under a microscope.”
― Britney Spears, The Woman in Me