Arya Harsono

“On social media you can have the illusion of social contact without having to perform the gestures that actually build trust, care, and affection. On social media, stimulation replaces intimacy. There is judgment everywhere and understanding nowhere.”
― David Brooks, How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

“Not long ago, it dawned upon me that impostor syndrome is a paradox:

- others believe in you
- you don't believe in yourself
- yet you believe yourself instead of them

If you doubt yourself, shouldn't you also doubt your low opinion of yourself?”
― Adam Grant, Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things

“When we select leaders, we don’t usually pick the person with the strongest leadership skills. We frequently choose the person who talks the most. It’s called the babble effect. Research shows that groups promote the people who command the most airtime—regardless of their aptitude and expertise. We mistake confidence for competence, certainty for credibility, and quantity for quality. We get stuck following people who dominate the discussion instead of those who elevate it.”
― Adam M. Grant, Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things

“A good conversation is an act of joint exploration. Somebody floats a half-formed idea. Somebody else seizes on the nub of the idea, plays with it, offers her own perspective based on her own memories, and floats it back so the other person can respond. A good conversation sparks you to have thoughts you never had before. A good conversation starts in one place and ends up in another.”
― David Brooks, How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen