Cynthia Clara

“However, if I do not “own” my life, my choices and options become very limited. Think how confusing it would be if someone told you to “guard this property diligently, because I will hold you responsible for what happens here,” and then did not tell you the boundaries of the property. Or they did not give you the means with which to protect the property. This would be not only confusing but also potentially dangerous.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

“[...] we need to cultivate the courage to be uncomfortable and to teach the people around us how to accept discomfort as a part of growth.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“The power of negative thinking” requires the removal of rose-coloured glasses. Not blame of others but owning responsibility for one’s relationships is the key.”
― Gabor Maté, When the Body Says No

“Since you cannot get them to change, you must change yourself so that their destructive patterns no longer work on you.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No