Janine

“God's solution for "I can't live that way anymore" is basically, "Good! Don't live that way anymore. Set firm limits against evil behavior that are designed to promote change and redemption. Get the love and support you need from other places to take the kind of stance that I do to help redeem relationship. Suffer long, but suffer in the right way." And when done God's way, chances are much better for redemption.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships

“Many people are too quick to trust someone in the name of forgiveness and not make sure that the other is producing “fruit in keeping with repentance” (Luke 3:8). To continue to open yourself up emotionally to an abusive or addicted person without seeing true change is foolish. Forgive, but guard your heart until you see sustained change.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

“To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

“a runner can never see the finish line in the middle of a marathon,”
― Henry Cloud, Boundaries in Marriage