Sandra S

“For each piece of malignant clutter, ask yourself: ​How did this get here? ​What power does this item have over me? ​Is this item helping me create the vision I have for the space? ​Is this item serving any purpose or helping me in some positive way? ​What feelings linked to this object have kept me from throwing it out? ​How would I feel if this item disappeared on its own right now? ​Could this item that’s a source of pain or disappointment to me become a wonderful addition to someone else’s life?”
― Peter Walsh, Lose the Clutter, Lose the Weight: The Six-Week Total-Life Slim Down

“Unbearable pain that is expressed and acknowledged becomes bearable. But borderlines received no such responses in their childhood. Therefore, they are stuck in the past, trying to elicit what they needed as a child—validation of their unbearable pain.”
― Christine Ann Lawson, Understanding the Borderline Mother

“courage is not a possession but a practice. Courage is not the absence of anxiety but the practice of trusting we are held and loved no matter what.”
― K.J. Ramsey, This Too Shall Last: Finding Grace When Suffering Lingers

“I have never believed that striving for perfection is a commendable habit. It just sets you up to fail before you even begin. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve seen a wish for perfection totally paralyze a person who dwells on the idea that “If I can’t do it perfectly, I can’t do it at all.” “Good enough” is a target that’s, well, good enough. Having a welcoming, comfortable home is a wonderful thing, even if you have a little clutter here and there. It says that your home is loved and lived in. When you reach “good enough,” relax and enjoy the view.”
― Peter Walsh, Lose the Clutter, Lose the Weight: The Six-Week Total-Life Slim Down