JR Carver

“Trauma doesn’t decrease with company, but it does grow easier to work through when you know someone else understands.”
― Brandon Sanderson, Yumi and the Nightmare Painter

“We walked back to the hotel under a deep navy sky bejeweled with stars.
In the center of the plaza a choir was singing. They held quivering candles, and their voices lilted icily into the sky.
I didn't see the moment. Not really.
I saw the story behind the moment - a tale passed down over two thousand years that told of a child of a superbeing sent to save the world.
Never before had I seen Homo Sapiens so clearly - a species, at its most fundamental level, of story tellers.
Creatures who overlay story on everything, but especially their own lives, and in so doing, can imbue a cold, random, sometimes brutal existence, with fabricated meaning.”
― Blake Crouch, Upgrade

“Rather, I believe it is a fundamental deficiency in self-regulation generally and executive functioning specifically—the ability to look toward the future and to control one’s behavior based on that foresight.”
― Russell A. Barkley, Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents

“here are the main lessons to make each challenge into a source of growth. 1. Don’t avoid conflict, which is your family’s opportunity to learn and grow if you understand where it originates and manage it appropriately. 2. You naturally think compatibility is key to relationship success, and difference brings conflict. In truth, you need enough compatibility to function, but not all that much. What you really need is complementarity to complete you as a person. 3. The culture of a family can get sick from the virus of negativity. This is a basic emotional-management issue, but applied to a group instead of to you as an individual. 4. The secret weapon in all families is forgiveness. Almost all unresolved conflict comes down to unresolved resentment, so a practice of forgiving each other explicitly and implicitly is extremely important. 5. Explicit forgiveness and almost all difficult communication require a policy of honesty. When families withhold the truth, they cannot be close.”
― Arthur C. Brooks, Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier