Lindsey

“People pleasing is really fearing peoples reactions, rejection or abandonment.”
― Tracy Malone

“If we speak plainly, without metaphors or symbols, we cannot escape common sense. Metaphors and symbols can be abused.”
― Alfred Adler, WHAT LIFE SHOULD MEAN TO YOU

“Another fact to be borne in mind in connection with criminals is that if we increase the punishments, so far from frightening the individual criminal, we merely help to increase his belief that he is a hero. We must not forget that the criminal lives in a self-centered world, a world in which one will never find true courage, self-confidence, communal sense, or understanding of common values. It is not possible for such persons to join a society. Neurotics seldom start a club, and it is an impossible feat for persons suffering from agoraphobia or for insane persons. Problem children or persons who commit suicide never make friends, a fact for which the reason is never given. There is a reason, however: they never make friends because their early life took a self-centered direction. Their prototypes were oriented towards false goals and followed lines of direction on the useless side of life.”
― Alfred Adler, The Science of Living

“A mature person is one who, having attained his majority, is able to make choices and decisions based on accurate perceptions about himself, others, and the context in which he finds himself; who acknowledges these choices and decisions as being his; and who accepts responsibility for their outcomes.”
― Virginia Satir, Peoplemaking