People Pleasing Quotes

“Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label "codependent." They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn't help. They have said yes when they meant no. They have tried to make other people see things their way. They have bent over backwards avoiding hurting people's feelings and, in so doing, have hurt themselves. They have been afraid to trust their feelings. They have believed lies and then felt betrayed. They have wanted to get even and punish others. They have felt so angry they wanted to kill. They have struggled for their rights while other people said they didn't have any. They have worn sackcloth because they didn't believe they deserved silk.”
― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

“When I feel my poetry touches someone's heart or mind, I'm fulfilled.”
― Suman Pokhrel

“One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is that no matter how good a person you are, no matter how much you try to understand others, be empathetic, or reach out to help, some people just will not like you. Ever.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Knowing who we are in Christ sets us free from the need to impress others.”
― Joyce Meyer, Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone

“Sometimes the universe conspires in ways that make it look like you are being rejected, but really, you are being protected from misaligned, potentially harmful people and situations.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“You do not have to change yourself to appease anyone.

You are perfectly worthy as you are.

You do not have to earn love and support.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“I put on the mask and robe, thinking that it would help me fit in. But soon the plaster crumbled and the fabric frayed, showing my true skin.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Sometimes life will tear your house apart so you can see the cracks in the foundation.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“Steve [sports psychiatrist] had already taught me to try and stop worrying so much about pleasing everyone. We knew that this was one of my most draining flaws and he again used three groups to clarify my thinking. There would always be some people, Steve said, who would care about me and love me. In contrast there would also be a select group of people who would never warm to me - no matter what I did. And in the middle came the overwhelming mass who were largely indifferent to any of my failures or triumphs. I needed to understand that most people didn't really care what I did or said. All my anguish about how they might perceive me was redundant. Steve helped me realize that I spent too much time trying to please those oblivious people in the middle or, more problematically, the small group who would never change their critical opinion of me. I should concentrate on the people who really did show concern for me.”
― Victoria Pendleton, Between the Lines: The Autobiography

“He tries to please them all, this bitter man he is.”
― James Hetfield

“People pleasing is really fearing peoples reactions, rejection or abandonment.”
― Tracy Malone

“Imagine how different the world would be if little girls were taught to set boundaries as often as they were taught to be polite.”
― Hailey Paige Magee, Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power

“It's safe to receive.
It's safe to let others help you.
It's safe to soften.
It's okay to pull back.
It's okay to look after yourself.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“You will never please every single person. It doesn't matter how good your intentions are.”
― Vanessa Ooms, Do It For You: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Find Peace

“If I can be everything to everybody then I don’t have to be anything to me.”
― Gail Fritz

“When we buy into those limiting and marginalizing stories, our souls are in exile. We spend our days worrying about pleasing others rather than doing what’s right for us—and, ultimately, what’s right for our families, our community, and our world.”
― Kathy Sparrow, Ignite Your Leadership: Proven Tools for Leaders to Energize Teams, Fuel Momentum and Accelerate Results

“Once you get rid of the idea that you must please other people before you please yourself, and you begin to follow your own instincts — only then can you be successful.”
― Raquel Welch

“I'd tried so hard. Given my all to be the perfect Elsie he wanted and..." It almost hurts too much to say it.

"You gave him a perfect version of you, and he still didn't want you," Jack says prosaically. Almost detached. Like I'm a gravitational singularity that can be explained, cataloged, predicted. I'm momentarily stunned by how right he is. Then I'm surprised that I'm even surprised.

"And what you took away from it was that you had to try harder.”
― Ali Hazelwood, Love, Theoretically

“This healing isn’t a one-time event; it is a process of rededicating ourselves to ourselves, over and over again. Every time we redirect our attention back to our feelings, our desires, and our dreams, we are healing. Every time we soothe ourselves through our guilt instead of reacting to it, we are healing. Every time we use our voice where we would have once stayed silent, we are healing.”
― Hailey Paige Magee, Stop People Pleasing: And Find Your Power

“In my adulthood I will come to realize I was pinballing between the outer, public fake me; the under-my-roof, family fake me; and the real me, who desperately wanted to feel safe.”
― Moon Unit Zappa, Earth to Moon: A Memoir

“... I'd like to get along with them, but in practice, I don't want to have to make concessions to be the kind of person who they would get along with.”
― Sanjena Sathian, Goddess Complex

“Once you know how to shift your energy, no one will be able to control your energy!”
― Curtis Tyrone Jones

“The more interested you are in what God says, the less concerned you become about what man thinks.”
― Andrena Sawyer

“Seek not each man to please, for that
is more than God bids do:
Please thou the best, and neuer care,
what wicked say thereto.”
― Isabella Whitney, A sweet nosgay, or pleasant posye: Contayning a hundred and ten phylosophical flowers

“I must have done it right,’ Holden said. ‘Everyone’s pissed.”
― James S.A. Corey, Cibola Burn

“You can't please people who aren't pleased with themselves.”
― Marion Bekoe

“Jedes Mal, wenn Sie jemand überreden will, haben Sie die Wahl, wen Sie enttäuschen wollen: ihn oder sich selbst?”
― Martin Wehrle, Wenn jeder dich mag, nimmt keiner dich ernst: Sagen, was man denkt. Bekommen, was einem zusteht.

“I'm very proud of you, mon amour. I know it isn't your nature to make people uncomfortable. Quite the contrary. Sometimes it's necessary, though, and you're settling a wonderful example for Zoe by standing up for yourself when need be.”
― Cleo White, Second Edition

“The antidote to this trap isn’t becoming selfish. It’s becoming whole. It’s allowing yourself to exist without justification. To rest without guilt. To take up space without proving your worth.”
― Ronen Dancziger, The Therapist's Handbook for Healing Your Simpsons Syndrome: Unhook from Your Inner Chaos Characters with CBT, ACT, and a Little Humor

“It’s queer we can never do anything we really want to in this world for fear of what people will say!”
― L.M. Montgomery, The Blythes Are Quoted