Fahed Aln

“We have this bias toward attractiveness because of out selfish-gene history: the unconscious mandate to reproduce, reproduce, reproduce, so that we as species don't go extinct. This deep-seated urge is so strong that studies have shown that men's mating motives are triggered by the mere presence of attractive women, even when they are trying to focus on something else.”
― John A. Bargh, Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do

“By using unconscious means to self-regulate, making "necessary evils" such as healthy eating and exercising and studying a routine part of their lives, they make the positive activities a routine habit so that they don't need to fight to get started, or overcome the disinclination to do them. Conscious and effortful self-control is too taxing and too unreliable, and as we know, vulnerable to rationalizations and excuses.”
― John A. Bargh, Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do

“The most effective self-control is not through willpower and exerting effort to stifle impulses and unwanted behaviors. It comes from effectively harnessing the unconscious powers of the mind to much more easily do the self-control for you.”
― John A. Bargh, Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do

“When we trust another person, such as a friend to whom we tell something very private, we make ourselves vulnerable, but it is a risk we are willing to take in order to make that relationship even closer.”
― John A. Bargh, Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do