Status Updates From The Myth of Sex Addiction

Teaching people that their sexual urges are an uncontrollable impulse, a force that is outside themselves, and not a part of who and what they are, is a belief that fosters and promotes evil and harm to others. It does not increase the likelihood that they will behave differently; it merely increases the chances that when they do hurt others, they will be convinced that it's not their fault.

This I can say for certain: If you go to war with your sexuality, you will lose and en up in more trouble than before you started. - Jack Morin
Pain is a signal - nothing more, an nothing less. It is an incredibly important part of life, just as valuable as happiness and joy. Pain and sadness help us understand and identify what is important in our lives, to value those things, and to motivate us to protect them.