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Repair attempts have a higher success rate when the quality of underlining friendships are enhanced.

Healthy couples do not stonewall each other.

Healthy couples are not belligerent towards one another. Belligerence contains a threat or provocation.

It is not good for either partner to have a sense of superiority over the other.

Do not hold contempt for one another. This can be displayed in name-calling, eye, rolling, mockery, and hostile humor.

Criticism vs Complaint:

Like many complaints, it has three parts: (1) here’s how I feel; (2) about a very specific situation; (3) and here’s what I need/want/prefer.

In contrast, a criticism is global and expresses negative feelings or opinions about the other person‘s character or personality.

How do healthy couples argue?

They do not criticize each other or speak sarcastically to one another. They do not hold contempt towards one another.