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“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own mind, unguarded. But once mastered, no one can help you as much, not even your father or mother.” -Buddha, p. 39

“My parents were not homophobic, but they were homonaïve.” ~11%

I like this term: homonaïve to describe people who don’t have hateful tendencies (homophobic), but rather have a lack of sensitivity due to a lack of exposure. Perhaps through its use, we can create a bit more gray in the polarized black and white thinking currently in America.

“[Straight-identified MSM] should not be read as essentialized gay men unable to accept it . . . Male-male sexualities happened within complicated worlds of myriad desires. To experience or act on homoerotic appetites did not necessarily define the person as gay. Male-male desire functioned beside and along with many other forms of desire…” ~10%