Status Updates From The Coaching Manual: The De...

Loved the illustrated examples and diagrams

Practical reflection questions. Relatable scenarios and thoughts.

At this point in my life, the book feels uncannily relevant, as if it’s guiding me through my own crossroads! Loving it so far.

Side note: You really need breaks between ideas to reflect and digest the information

It’s getting interesting

Research suggests that our intelligence (our IQ) might account for just 20 per cent of our career success. The rest is down to our personality, (preferences, attitudes, postures, etc.) and, of course, emotional maturity. This is great news because, although personality and IQ remain fairly fixed over time, our emo-tional maturity is something we can always work on, to develop and improve.

Emotional maturity-a key to coaching

It is important to recognise that we do not always occupy one fixed place: metimes, we are relaxed and resourceful; sometimes, we are uptight and crit-al. To be an effective coach, we want our general levels of emotional maturity most circumstances to stay healthy. By 'healthy', I mean that our behaviours d responses create a mostly constructive effect over time.

Coach the person, not the issue

In coaching, remember to focus primarily on the person in front of you, rather than their issue. Sometimes, we can get so involved in the engaging challenge of a situation that we forget that our role is not to solve some-one's issues for them. By using behaviours such as silence, summarising and questioning, we support the coachee to find their own solution. Of course, at times it's

Keeping things simple

Simple questions often have the greatest impact because they allow your coachee to use their energy to form their response, rather than to try to under-stand the wording of the question. In addition, simple questions often get 'to the heart of the matter' more easily, because of their direct (straight-talking) nature: for example, 'What's important about that?' or 'What causes this?' We obvious

Relationship factor: openness and trust

A successful coaching relationship is built on a foundation of openness and trust between the coach and the coachee. As a coach, you encourage this by being open with your coachee and demonstrating that you are someone they can trust.

At a Glance

Watch my feelings!

It is okay to mirror positive feeling words

Sometimes, we need to acknowledge someone's feelings as a way of empathising with them, or to demonstrate we understand what they have said. Here, it usually works best to use the exact words or phrase they use.

But

avoid embedding negative feelings...

BELIEFS WE OPERATE FROM

Once skills are acquired, it's not like riding a bike - we coaches do forget! These skills are more like muscles; they must be used regularly to keep them strong.

Fundamental skills of coaching

Building rapport and relationship

Constructive feedback

Focused levels of listening

Asking effective questions

Use of intuition

BELIEFS WE OPERATE FROM

Once skills are acquired, it's not like riding a bike - we coaches do forget! These skills are more like muscles; they must be used regularly to keep them strong.