Status Updates From Facing Love Addiction: Givi...

Got intrigued with the concept from the Truth book and fell down a rabbit hole that led to this book, so far I've been finding it mind blowing !

When you have effectively accomplished this detachment, the intensity subsides and the environment may get extremely quiet, especially in comparison to the way it was. When the intensity is gone, it may seem as if you have nothing left in the relationship, because intensity was practically all you had in the first place.

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In situations in which you have been engaged in your addictive process, you need to stop and be willing to go into withdrawal and stay there without returning to the addictive experience, until the withdrawal has passed. For example, you need to stop chasing somebody who doesn't want to be with you; stop having sex with inappropriate people; stop drinking; stop overeating; stop overworking.

If you are in denial that you are an addict, there is virtually nothing anybody can do to help you until you move into reality—the reality that you are an addict. This almost always means waiting until the pain is so severe that it cracks the shell of the denial.

Many of us think that the right partner will complete a missing part of ourselves, finally making us feel whole. We also believe that this ideal lover will reveal the meaning of life to us. But each one of us has the potential to feel whole and fulfilled from within ourselves to the extent that we can develop our competence in self-love, self-protection, self awareness, self-care, and self-containment.

I'll never forget that day I broke through the denial and delusion about my immaturity and began to see the reality of the person with whom my partner was living—me.

This has some kick