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Principle 15: self love isn’t about how you look, or what you do, it’s about how you love

Forcing change or be somewhere you arent is counterproductive to peace. It’s how you choose to live. Are you loving? Dreaming big? Showing up for yourself? You are enough. You don’t have to become more than what you are. Self acceptance.

Principle 14: you are a gift. Remind yourself, how lucky you are to be alive.

The more grateful we are, the more abundant we feel. Focus on things going well. Don’t be a bad dash to get anywhere or conquer a new goal. Be happy to be alive and to be you. When you love yourself, peace prevails. Stop trying to pick up yourself, change yourself, or make yourself into anything else.

Principle 13: when you heal yourself, you help to heal the world

Focus on health = healing. Stop comparison. Participate in your life. Focus on your well being- what pain needs to healed?

Principle 12: your relationship with yourself sets the tone for everything in your life

How you treat yourself is how others with treat you. You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody. In relationships, we work hard to prove loveability and worth. Don’t allow people to treat you less than you deserve. Dont stay past expiration dates.

Principle 11: your dreams are the invisible architecture of your life. Trust them and honor them.

Fear stops us from pursuing dreams. Excuses keep us stuck. I can’t do that because I’m not educated or
smart enough. A man won’t love you because of your hair- you are beautiful as you are, and there are many people who want to be with you for your genuine self.

Principle 10: you get what you focus on.

Our thoughts are important and what we focus on matters. Focus determines results. Focus all your attention on what you want. Don’t waste time with thoughts that don’t bring you joy.

Dating: go out into the world and do what you love, and be confident you will meet people. Hold the belief that word is meant for you will always find a way.

Principle 9: the more you, you show, the more your life will flow

We get offended because something in a comment that someone made about us reflects a place that still needs to be healed. We feel the need to defend ourselves. You need to love your insecurities and show more of you. The more you show of your real self, the easier it will be to align with people who want to be around you and like you.

Principle 8: when you nurture the inside, the outside will flourish.

You have to love yourself, before finding love. If you truly love yourself, then you meet people who do as well. You meet people who are less judgmental, and committed to making their dreams come true. Who are open minded and dedicated to personal growth.

Principle 7: things don’t happen to you, they happen for you

Struggle can look like things are happening to us, but struggle and growth go hand-in-hand. If you don’t like the outcome you were living, you have a choice. Choices to get out. Troubling situations are opportunities to learn more about yourself, and how they fit into your greater life plan. What good is coming out of situations troubling you?

Principle 6: how you feel is more important than how you look.

Focus on how you feel and your habits will change. You’ll start making choices that benefit how you feel, and it will improve how you look. Once you like how you look, be careful of your habit of worry manifesting itself in something new.

Principle 5: strive every day to be a better version of you.

Look at your setbacks, insecurities, fears, doubts, and show up despite them. Keep going and honor the process of becoming your best self. Each day is an opportunity to be more of who you are, but you could only do this when you were kind to yourself. Let go of expectations around what life is supposed to look like, and just do the best you can.

Principle 4: to get what you want, you have to let go of what you don’t want.

Let go of stress, a person, situation, or thought pattern. You have to release, and let life unfold naturally, or else you will be in your own way. The energy behind surrender accomplishes much more than the desperate energy of control.

Principle 3: thinking you don’t have a choice is a choice. We always have a choice. Thinking we don’t keep us stuck. Even when we feel stuck, we are actually in a time of transformational growth. We have to realize that we are stuck. Ask yourself, what change can I make?

Principle 2: be who you needed to be when you were younger.

Whose love did you crave growing up? What happened in your life that shook you to your core? What did you have to be for that person? What do you blame this person for? Forgive them and release the pain for the past, and celebrate who you are. Without the pain, you would not be who you are today. Pain causes us to grow. Who can you think for that pain?

Principle 1: accept where you are. It’s just a point on your journey and everything about it offers the possibility for future growth.

Ask yourself: am I going through something that will help me grow? Or am I celebrating recent growth?

Even when you were crying, sad, lonely, worrisome, filled with self hatred, you stand by yourself. Do not abandon yourself. It means giving up, saying it’s too hard, sacrificing your true desires by settling for a way of life that doesn’t lift you up or serve you. Show up for yourself even in your darkest hour.

You feel it is selfish to get what you want, there isn’t enough to go around, you only matter when you help others, you don’t feel deserving of what you desire, others needs are more important than yours.- receiving must be learned. Is is essential for well being.

Joy > happiness. We need it everyday. Joy is barometer for success. If you want to know if you’re successful- ask yourself how much joy you feel.

What deep down in your heart have you always wanted to do? Listen to the small voice, it is your calling. We are always making goals, growing into new versions of ourselves, and making new goals and dreams to achieve

To feel peace, we have to show up for ourselves and our inner child the way others never did

Loving yourself means loving your fears. Things often get worse before they get better

Myth: you have to love every part of yourself to experience self love

You must become what you want to attract. Want a healthy partner? Be healthy yourself. We can’t live our dreams if our body is breaking down

You aren’t what people say you are. Stop holding on to what isn’t working. Journey more important than the goal/reward. Love your own company and you won’t be lonely. Celebrate what you’ve accomplished because the to do list is never done. Emotional pain shows us we need to make a change. Purpose in pain- embrace the journey. We get what we need, not always want. Everything happens at the right time/place

It’s what you do with ah ha! Epiphany moments that matter. Courage is required. Stop trying to reach ah ha moments - let it happen. Stop trying to reach self love. Stop apologizing for what you want. Stop apologizing for the you look. Stop trying to find romantic love. Stop chasing dreams, let them come
to you. Let it happen.