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Tell the Truth
-“You need to look deep into the mind of the other person to see how you can tell the truth in such a way that others don’t feel threatened, so they can listen” (54)
-“If words are spoken with compassion and understanding, the pain will heal more quickly” (55)

Four Elements of Right Speech
1. Tell the truth. Don’t lie or turn the truth upside down.
2 Don’t exaggerate.
3. Be consistent. No double-talk: speaking about something in one way to one person and in an opposite way to another for selfish or manipulative reasons.
4. Use peaceful language. Don’t use insulting or violent words, cruel speech, verbal abuse, or condemnation.

Communicating with Others
-Deep listening: with the intent of helping that person suffer less
-Compassionate speech: we don’t get caught up in judgment and if a judgment forms, we don’t hold onto it (42)
-Being inhabited by compassion keeps me safe to deeply listen (45)
-Loving speech: use words In a way that can help the listener not be caught in wrong perceptions

Suffering
-“Feelings are like a small child tugging at our sleeves. Pick them up and hold them tenderly.” (28)
-“Understand suffering and transform it, we are healing our parents and our ancestors as well as ourselves”(29)
-“If we know how to take good care of our suffering, we will know how to take good care of happiness”(31)

-“We all hunger for love, but we don’t know how to generate love in order to feed ourselves with it”(13)
-Phone: “purpose is to help me communicate with compassion”(16)
-“Home is inside us” (17)
-“A misperception can happen…in a flash…anything we do or say based on that perception can be dangerous” (20)
- Breathe in: I’m aware of my body
- Breathe out: I release all the tension in my body