Status Updates From Fearful Avoidant Attachment...

“Dismissive avoidants can suffer occasional anxiety in their relationships since they can be nervous if their significant other does not keep in touch with them for a while or breaks a pattern of contact.”

“Animals can provide a sense of peace, comfort, or protection and divert focus away from a tense environment and towards one that offers enjoyment.”

“Animal-assisted therapy proponents believe that forming a relationship with an animal helps individuals develop a greater sense of self-worth and confidence, stabilize their feelings, and strengthen their ability to interact, self-regulate, and socialize.”

“The dismissive avoidant undervalues their partner, while the anxious preoccupied overvalues them, leading to a relationship characterized by stress and anxiety. While the dismissive avoidant likes to shy away from intimacy and connection, their needy partner will act to confirm the dismissive avoidant’s view that all people are clingy.”

“They struggle to build trust and rely on their partner and often have little confidence in the strength of their relationship. Unsurprisingly, this leads them to behave unpredictably, and they can become overwhelmed by the intensity and inconsistency of their own emotions.”

“When a crisis hits a relationship, in the form of conflict, or even a breakup, people with this love style close themselves off and convince themselves — at least for a while — that they don’t care about what’s happening. Their strong, independent personality kicks in, and they convince themselves they are happy on their own”

Maybe I once had a fearful attachment and then it converts to dismissive one!

“Fearful avoidants often have difficulty sharing their feelings with their partners. They are also characterized by weakened empathy, meaning they are often difficult to speak with.”

“Kids with a fearful avoidant attachment can easily disconnect from their own feelings and needs. They may learn to soothe themselves and feel like they can depend on themselves. They, consequently, have little trust in others, or motivation to seek support or help from other people.”

“Romantic relationships frequently provide the possibility of revising your attachment style. Consider the styles of your past partners, or maybe your friends and colleagues. Your attachment-related tension can cause you to make quick, and often inaccurate emotional judgments of others.”

“The child may have developed an incorrect outlook on life; they think that people aren't to be trusted, that people only bring trouble, and thus people must be shunned.”

“Violence leaves the child forever scarred, as they remember the pain they endured at the hands of their parent or guardian.”