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- "Honestly/truthfully" shows you have something to hide. Simply say what you mean.
- Instead of saying "przeważnie", it's better to say "zawsze gdy jest to konieczne"
- "As far as I know" leaves the questioner in the dark. It's better to simply say "I'm sorry, I don't know."
- When someone is suffering, don't offer advice. Instead, say "I'm sorry you're suffering" or "I don't know what to say, but I'm here for you."

- With a withdrawn interlocutor, ask open-ended questions, speak directly to him, draw him into the discussion
- With a skeptical interlocutor, stay cool, neither contradict nor agree, use factual arguments
- With an arrogant interlocutor, soothe him with a compliment, ask for solid justification of his points
- With an interlocutor with a big ego, ignore him and address others instead

- Question the arguments being presented in order to show your objectivity, e.g.: “The data indicates this is true. However, it’s hard not to notice that …”
- Eliminate words like “But” (“You’re right, let’s just talk about one thing”), “No” (“Please think of a different solution instead”), “Try” (“Put yourself in my situation”)

- Use factual/logical arguments. Keep emotional arguments rather for private conversations
- First present the argument, and only then give your own opinion, e.g. don't say “We must close the border, people are dying”, but instead: “People are dying, we must close the border.”

Nice sample of saying goodbye: "Sorry, I'm pressed for time. Goodbye."

- Introverts value meaningful conversations over small talk — imagine asking Einstein about the weather.
- To overcome stage fright, try speaking while chewing a peach pit; the real moment will feel easier in comparison.
- If someone isn’t listening, grab their attention with a question or a striking statement — even something dramatic.