Status Updates From Trans Sex: A Guide for Adults

Just finished the chapter about surgeries, and I think I was unable to follow 🥲

"Sex is bimodal rather than binary, and there are both a wide variety of ways in which genitals can form; and no clear dividing line between particular kinds of genitals."

"Uncoupling sexual desire from the idea of a 'drive' is important for two big reasons. First, it ends any implication that there is such a thing as a right to sex - a desire for sex that feels urgent does not mean that somebody has a right to sex with another person (...). Second, understanding sex as a drive implies that sexual desire is usually or always spontaneous."

"Desire, pleasure and arousal are all different things (and all different again from consent). Desire is a want to do something sexual. Pleasure is the positive feelings of happiness and enjoyment that human beings get from particular sensations, including sometimes sexual ones. Arousal is different from pleasure in that it refers to the physiological response to sexual stimuli, such as getting an erection."

I’m obsessed with this book!! I’m learning so much