Status Updates From Urban Tribes: A Generation ...

“I needed to distance myself from the tribe for the same reason that we take leave of our parents to become adults. To grow up, you have to move away from the people who remember how you cried in the dark and wet your bed.”

“Love is a leap of faith that you cannot fully commit to if you can see your friends busily building a safety net below.”

There’s a line “it began to dawn on me that singleness May have a specific meaning for Coleman that it didn’t for me. There was, after all, one population of adults out there who will likely never have the chance to get married.”

This book was written in 2003. In 2016 marriage equality was passed.

“It was clear that there was a lot of warmth in these tribes, but I still wasn’t sure if, on the whole, they were having a positive influence on people’s lives or somehow holding them back.”

“Because we cannot see the paths we have not taken, we become, by default, advocates for the path our life is on.”

“It was clear that there was a lot of warmth in these tribes, but I still wasn’t sure if, on the whole, they were having a positive influence on people’s lives or somehow holding them back.”

“Because we cannot see the paths we have not taken, we become, by default, advocates for the path our life is on.”

“Because of intensely high clustering coefficients, friendships in tribes sometimes defy what you’d normally expect in friendships, namely that they are always reciprocal, positive relationships which are freely entered into and relatively freely exited from.”

“Because of intensely high clustering coefficients, friendships in tribes sometimes defy what you’d normally expect in friendships, namely that they are always reciprocal, positive relationships which are freely entered into and relatively freely exited from.”

“Cooking dinner and sharing time with one’s children seemed like the act of someone who was living a good life. The act of cooking for one’s single friends did not carry the same weight. We seemed to lack the social narrative for how good deeds share among friends might be the central activity in praiseworthy lives.”

“Generations May be judged by their epic battles or their grand contributions to the history of humanity, but individuals, for the most part, are judged on the sum of smaller deeds. This was easy to see within the context of families but harder to see within the context of friendships.”

“It didn’t occur to us that we were different, because we were surrounded by people like ourselves, who similarity had the freedom to treat their lives as if they were one big fun hobby.”

“Given that freedom is, for the most part, an absence of restraints, we rarely stopped to count the things we were not bound by.”