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I knew women are catty towards each other but this is diabolical!

Wait. Since it was done by an adult mother and an eighteen year old employee, isn't the employee also a part of that easily manipulated under twenty fivers?

"Remember the power of PEP includes intense love or obsession (love bombing), but its true goal is to seal the target's loyalty."

"It's how they get you to do something you wouldn't do if you knew the truth. It's how they win and you lose, and get you to help them take advantage of you or others by using their PEP on you."

"A con is designed to gain power over you and others."

"Instead of disagreeing with your values, beliefs or behavior, they attack your being. They'll tell others, or the world, that you are a terrible, sinful, shameful, human being."

"Bullies require the inaction of their targets and the tolerance (or ignorance or complicity) of lots of other people in order to continue their bullying."

"Bullies also use primitive vocal sounds, domineering tones of voice, sounds of great confidence, and threatening exclamations that are meant to strike fear in their targets."

"They may sit surrounded by other people to make them look even bigger."

"Bullies want to get into your head and manipulate you, to make you doubt yourself and believe in them."

"It usually takes place where there is power imbalance or a perceived power imbalance."

"Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle actions."

"Many people scratch their heads about why adult bullies succeed repeatedly, but they are looking in the wrong places for answers. Most people who became adult bullies' targets of blame wonder what they did to cause bullies to attack them. They often feel isolated and ashamed. They look for issues, causes and root problems. They don't understand that all these are completely beside the point."

Don't give in to unhealthy competitions.

Expressing interest in what they've been through could disarm them.

We are more likely to empathize with people if we identify with them
in some way.

Senior leaders who are jealous of their charges may obstruct promotions, hold younger folks to impossible standards, and insist that they're always right because of rank.

To me, one of the most upsetting consequences of working with a
tormentor is the potential damage it can do to your confidence.

There are some estimates that abusive
supervision costs companies millions of dollars each year in the form of
lost productivity, employee turnover, and litigation.

Having an abusive supervisor has been connected to lack of engagement at work, greater work-life conflict, and psychological distress.