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“Aunt Beryl is at it again!”
Lie 1 reversed: Intwlligence is fluid

4 types of genius
-Dynamo (creativity & ideas)
-Blaze (interactions with others)
-Tempo (big picture)
-Steel (data & information)

Limiting Ideas Entertained
Belief Systems

Digital deluge
Distraction
Dementia
Deduction

Motivation
Mindset
Method

I’m dope
Delusional positivity
Spare change adds up
i’ll feel awesome after
Pivot, don’t panic

Collect Soundtracks
Turn the dial down

Ask the soundtracks
1- is it true
2-is it helpful
3- is it kind

Chapter 20
Habits + Deliberate Practice = Mastery
Review habits, make adjustments

1- what went well this year
2- what didn’t go well
3- what did i learn

1- what are my core values
2- how am i living & working with integrity rn
3 - how can i set a higher standard in the future

Chapter 19
The goldilocks Rule: Peak motivation occurs when working on tasks on the edge of current abilities. Not 2 hard. Not 2 easy.

Variable Reward. 50/50 success/failure ratio is best for greatest spike of dopamine

Even the most successful get bored & lose motivation. Pros stick to the schedule; amateurs let life get in the way.

Personality
0 Openness to experience
0 Conscientiousness
0 Extroversion
0 Agreeableness
0 Neuroticism

Explore/Exploit trade-off

When you can’t win by being better, you can win by being different
You can win by being the best in a very narrow category

Work hard on the things that come easy

Importance of habit tracking
Missing once is an accident. Missing twice is the start of a new habit

Chapter 17
Importance of an accountability partner
Behavior only shifts if the punishment is painful enough and reliably enforced

Chapter 18
People at top of any a competitive field are not only well trained, but are also well-suited to the task. Select your focus area wisely

Authoritarian: Do as you’re told
Permissive: Do your own thing
Authoritative: We can work it out

“good parents alwaYs try to come back to a position of acceptance”

- Create discussion opportunities at meal times
- Stay connected through 12-14
- Pay attention to subtext of interactions (loss, identity, independence, control)

Children need to see that we value
- character first
- effort second
- grades third

Not confusing what you want and who you are with what your child wants and who they are

Well-loved children (unconditional support, soothed, helped to navigate difficulties, reassured of their value or ability to please others) believe they are worth caring about and come to care about themselves.

Concept of “internal home”