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“I wanted to die, I have told you many times. It is cruel to have made me want to live only to make my death more bloody?”

My babyyy 😞😞😞😞😞😞😞

You are evil, you know, and sometimes when you smiled at me I hated you. You smiled at me the way you smiled at everyone, you told me what you told everyone-and you tell nothing but lies. What are you always hiding?(…) when you made love to me, you were making love to no one? No one! Or everyone— but not me, certainly. I am nothing to you, nothing, and you bring me fever but no delight.'

“I have never reached you, you have
never really been here. I do not think you have ever lied to me but I know that you have never told me the truth why?
Sometimes you were here all day long and you read or you opened the window or you cooked something-and I watched you-and you never said anything-and you looked at me with such eyes, as though you did not see me.”

Clock him!!

'We are not rich,' said Giovanni, grimly, but we will eat tomorrow.'

Jesus christ kill me kill me right now

Sometimes, when he was not near me, I thought, I will never let him touch me again. Then, when he touched me, I thought it doesn't matter, it is only the body, it will soon be over. When it was over I lay in the dark and listened to his breathing and dreamed of the touch of hands, of Giovanni's hands, or anybody's hands, hands which would have the power to crush me and make me whole again.

“I knew that what the sailor had seen in my unguarded eyes was envy and desire: I had seen it often in Jacques eyes and my reaction and the sailor's had been the same. But if I were still able to feel affection and if he had seen it in my eyes, it would not have helped, for affection, for the boys I was doomed to look at, was vastly more frightening than lust.”

Uff

“perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.”

White feminism will be our doom😔

“The rules of patriarchal manhood remind them that it is their duty as men to refuse relatedness”

Except for family, wich is why they cling so hard into their “role” in the family, cause its the only place where they can experience any kind of relatedness

“Contemporary patriarchy has offered disappointed male workers a trade off: the perks of manhood that depressed economy takes away can be redeemed in the realm of the sexual through domination of women. When that world of sexuality is not fulfilling, males age.”

“Work stands in the way of love for most men then because the long hours they work often drain their energies; there is little or no time left for emotional labor, for doing the work of love.”

How are we supposed to do so much inner work and deconstruct so much when we’re barely able to exist as people?

“Some males, felt that changes in the valuation and nature of work, as well as competition with women for jobs, robbed them of the pride in being providers, creating what she calls a "masculinity crisis."

“Sex is, presented as the road to real inti-macy, complete closeness, as the arena in which it is okay to openly love, to be tender and vulnerable and yet remain safe, to not feel so deeply alone. Sex is the one place sensuality seems to be permissible, where we can be gentle with our own bodies and allow ourselves our overflowing passion.“

“Rather than change, patriarchal males and females have exploited the logic of gender equality in the sexual realm to encourage women to be advocates of patriarchal sex and to pretend, like their male counterparts, that this is sexual freedom.”

Modern day white feminism is counterproductive

“Patriarchal violence is a mental illness”

“They explain that the "sexual craving is not for sex, but for something deeper."…For the patriarchal male, be he straight or gay, addictive sexuality is fundamentally about the need to constantly affirm and reaffirm one's selfhood.”
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“In patriarchal culture everyone is encouraged to see the penis, even the penis of a small boy, as a potential weapon. This is the psychology of a rape culture.”

“ I learned about sex when I was nine years old. I was giving blow jobs at ten. While other kids were out playing with guns, I was learning how to 'please' a man.”
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“We have all heard the notion that men come to relationships looking for sex and not love and that women come to relationships looking for love and not sex.
In actuality, men come to sex hoping that it will provide them with all the emotional satisfaction that would come from love.”

“…Then violence is your ticket in to the patriarchal manhood contest, and your ability to do violence levels the playing field. On that field, Lthe field of violence, any man can win.”
Oh okay

“It is more difficult for men to do the work of emotional development because this work requires individuals to be emotionally aware-to feel.”

He may apologize and feel shame immediately after, but he can't sustain that emotion; So he blames it on her. If it happens repeatedly with more than one woman, he goes from blaming her to blaming "them." His personal shortcomings become rationalized by an evolving misogiyny.... At this point the abusiveness is hardwired into the system. The man is programmed for intimate violence.”

“This testing doesn’t heal the trauma, merely renacts it…this drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love”
bell, girl enough please

“In adolescence, many caring affectionate mothers stop giving their sons emotional nurturance for tear it will emasculate them. Unable to cope...boys internalize the pain and mask it with indifference or rage"
Okay clock me

In adolescence, many caring affectionate mothers stop giving their sons emotional nurturance for fear it will emasculate them. Unable to cope…boys internalize the pain and mask it with indifference or rage”
Okay clock me

Barbie x bell hooks

"In single-parent families, it's common to see boys who have become their mother's little man. Often these boys are very bossy children who patronize their mothers, who in fact do uncanny imitations of a certain kind of husband, being alternately possessive, protective, and seductive."
Oh!

“Disconnection is not fallout from traditional masculinity. Disconnection is masculinity”

“I believed that violence was a by-product of boyhood socialization… I have come to believe that violence is boyhood socialization.”