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dnf at 40.
this book is soooo annoying.
the characters are unbearable and unlikable. they are not antihero’s, they are just straight up bad people. I especially hate ari

“You know, every night,” she says, “I lie here by myself and think, ‘Tomorrow is the day I’ll wake up and feel okay about this.’ There has to be a tipping point, right? Do you ever feel like you’re living a depressing ending, but you never get to the last page? There’s no pithy final line? It just keeps going.”

their romance was too rushed. it felt like he liked her since the beginning. it wasn’t much enemies to lovers
- their romance feels kind of fake
- first 20% is just her whining.
- the middle of book was very interesting anr compelling
- their romance is too much for me. it feels like a photoshopped version of love.
- she literally begs after him. There’s a point where she should have given him space, i think

in the beginning, violet annoyed me, cause she didn’t believe in herself, said she was weak, didn’t have training, but somehow was very good with knifes? idk
why it also feels like she likes Xaden more than he likes her. The words she says feel kinda forced, not natural, not like real love, but like an idealized version of love. Idk how to explain. It just bothers me.
Also, i think i might prefer slow burns

dnf. too boring.
main character gave me the ick. she’s trying too hard while not trying at all. she annoys me

"How do you know I'll find someone else?" she asked. -
I don't. I just don't see the point in being in a relationship that appears to be damaging and beneath you. You are a really cool, obviously very cute..."

believe that anything is possible. However, my experience has been that most men do not change, and the ones I've seen change only changed when they met new women.

Most of the great things we want in life are intimidating. That's what makes life so darn exciting. Do you really have time for a guy who's so afraid of you that he's not even capable of inviting you for coffee?

I will not
go out with a man who hasn't asked me out first.
go out with a man who keeps me waiting
date a man who isn't sure he wants to date me.
date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
be with a man who's afraid to talk about our future.
spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me

If you're in a relationship that you suspect is not good for you, but you're not sure, do this simple exercise: Take out a tape recorder. Tell the story of your relationship into it. Play it out loud. Imagine that your best friend in the whole world is telling you the story instead of you. Would you want better for her?**

some men have a hard time being physically affectionate, but actually not enjoying it? It's difficult to fathom. He may be really into you, but he's certainly not really compatible with you. I say move on, meet someone who enjoys the things you like, and have a long life filled with playful grab-ass.

if on dates he only talks about himself: He's clearly as impressed with himself as you are. I hate to tell you this, but he's not into you; he's into how you look listening to him. When I met my wife, all I wanted to do was ask her questions. How else was I going to know what she was all about? Yes, I wanted to impress her with feats of glory--but because I thought she was the catch.

Forget about him and his good qualities. Forget about all his excuses and what he promises. Ask yourself: Is he making you happy? People are complicated. That's why trying to figure them out is a waste of time. Is he making you happy? Does he make it clear in his actions every day that your happiness is important to him? If the answer is no, cut him loose

You are going to meet many men in many different stages of recovering from relationships. If he is really into you, he will get over his issues fast and make sure he doesn't lose you. Or he will make it clear to you how he feels, so there's no mystery, and tell you up front that he's not up to it right now. And then you can best be sure, the minute he is ready, he will run out and find you.

Here's how you and Ring Finger Fred can handle this situation now: Stop seeing each other; let him figure out his life. If he ends up staying with his wife, then you would have been that girl who was having an affair with the guy who was never planning on leaving his wife. If he does leave his wife, then you can start a life with him not based in shame.

100% of men polled who had "disappeared" on a woman said that at the time they were completely aware of what a horrible thing they were doing, and no woman calling them up and talking to them would have changed that.

You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the Disappearing Man. But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run. Because the only part of that story that's important to remember is that he didn't want to be with you anymore. And he didn't have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.

100% of men polled said that when they broke up with someone, it always meant that they didn't want to go out with them anymore.

A guy says he doesn't want to be with you. Sometimes he realizes he's made the biggest mistake and sometimes he doesn't. Either way, move on with your life, and fast. He can always chase you down: "Let's get back together." "Let's go into counseling.” "I miss you. I made a mistake. I want to be with you.” it won't sound like: "Just calling to check in." "Want to see that movie?" "Will you go to wedding with me?"

Sometimes people change their minds, sometimes they meet someone else, sometimes they get sober (he was drinking excessively), and sometimes he was just a jerk who you're lucky to be rid of (not that I was judging). It doesn't matter, because you cannot change his mind. Oh,

Funny how you notice how many times your dude comes crawling back to you, while I notice how many times he's told you that he doesn't ever want to see you ever again. Hes probably just lonely if he breaks up and gets back.