Jen’s Reviews > Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough > Status Update

Can’t do it. Too dumb for me. Her argument boils down to: care more about the inside of the person than the outside. Really?!?! How is this something people don’t know!?!!!?

…rates what they are we women clearly aren’t dropping enough men for these shit behaviors and choices.

Anywho…I just feel she’s all “la de da” about dating and men and it’s just not. She’s just being shallow and simultaneously blind to the real dangers of men.

Also, she hit it off with a woman at a speed dating event where the men disappointed and didn’t even think of trying a date with her. !!!

…settle. Sometimes the “he says awesome too much” is really your intuition saying NO. Also, IDEK how to put this into words, but some things (physical, personality quirks) are fine to “settle” on and honestly shouldn’t even be things we look for. But anger, manipulation, gaslighting, reluctance to help/clean, a need to control etc are all reasons to drop a man immediately. With the rape and abuse …

But I feel the whole premise of these girls
Is wrong. Who are these girls? I’ve not known women like this at ALL. And honestly, my whole
Dating philosophy was if you’re attracted to someone date them until it’s a big NO. Like one time a partner called me a piece of shit and I could tell it was going to be a larger pattern of belittling and dismissal of my ideas. Done. Instead of looking for someone who …

This book is driving me a little crazy. It’s super het normative and incredibly…privileged. The cis hetero white lady was super picky and dismissive of boyfriends for dumb reasons (a group of women like her list being short and saying “awesome” too much as reasons they broke up with boyfriends). And then is shocked and appalled when she ends up 40 and single. The whole point of the book is be less picky. But