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Argument for trauma is etiology which is the cause for something.
Adlerian psychology is teleology explanation of phenomena purpose they serve rather than cause bulky which they arrive.

‘Individual psychology’ Adlerian

There is no escape from your own subjective. If you change the world will appear more simple.
This issue is not the world, it is how you take the world in.

You wear Dark glasses, makes the world look dark, remove the dark glasses. Perspective change.

“Be equal in consciousness and to assert that which needs to be asserted”

Adlerian psychology is the psychology of changing one’s self not psychology for changing others. Take the first step, others around you will change too, they have no choice.

Separation of task: emphasizes distinguishing between your own tasks and the tasks of others.

Whose task is this? (Natural consequence)

“Take away lens of competition…that we can begin to correct and change ourselves.”

When found in a power struggle, step down as soon as possible.
Learn to settle things without anger anger is a tool a form of Communication. You can communicate without relying on the tool of anger. Irrational people don’t know about the other communication tools, language. Believe in the power of language of logic. Do not criticize others, “I am right.”

Teleology the attributing the purpose of a given phenomenon rather than the cause.

Existence of trauma was beyond question. People don’t forget the past not become free from it

Adler psychology is “important not what one is born with but how one makes use.”