Jewnifer’s Reviews > I Didn’t Sign Up for This: A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy in Relationships . . . Including Her Own > Status Update

Deactivating their need refers to a situation where an individual, often with an avoidant attachment style, actively reduces or eliminates their emotional needs and reliance on others.

A negative relationship pattern: The Pursue-Withdraw

"I get critical because you are defensive"
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"I get defensive because you are critical".

Invisible labor.. love this term