Tiff’s Reviews > The Dry Season: A Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex > Status Update

“People-pleasing is just people-using” lol ok so that just ruined my day!!!

I know what a sunk cost is but I won’t apply that knowledge today 😌

I’m not far enough to really have concrete thoughts yet but liking this bit about beguines and how the decentering of men/sex to center God (but irl providing freedom in a time when not accessible to women). It’s making me think of Jessica Valenti’s The Purity Myth, which frustrated me for shaming women choosing to wait for marriage and how she framed it as a choice made for men but maybe we have autonomy?