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“Asking judgment-based questions will get you judgement-based answers.”

“Comparing two things that have fundamentally different capabilities, purposes, and environmental and functional needs is pointless. Yet, it is what we do all day every day when we judge ourselves and others against equally irrelevant factors.”

“Perfectionism is a hope-based mindset that you can do better + that if you do better, you will finally be enough.”

The chapter about shame, and in particular, internalized and maladaptive shame is really hitting me hard.

“By accepting that people make judgments based on how their own brains work, not yours, their judgments lose power.”

“People have convinced themselves that external expectations + judgments are hard rules that must be followed. They further convince themselves that those made-up rules take priority over the very real needs of the human body + mind.”

Whoa. Only on the intro + already this book is giving me some no shit vibes. Cannot wait to dive into it all.