Alvir’s Reviews > Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection > Status Update

Always turn towards your partner’s bids for connection. Never be dismissive of their negative emotions.

Failed bids for connection?

Illustration: playing a board game with two different sets of instructions

Meta-emotion = how we feel about feelings

Successful conflict is not about conflict style but the positive/negative ratio (5:1)

A relationship is a constant negotiation between the individual and collective

Anger = an “approach emotion”

5 positive interaction to every 1 negative reaction (5:1 ratio) pg. 28

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