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“This means that if a person was in an abusive situation either as a child or in a domestic partnership where cleaning or mess was used as punishment or was the subject of abuse then that person is going to have post-traumatic stress around housekeeping and they may avoid it because it triggers their nervous system.”

— Oct 06, 2025 12:55PM

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Tiffani is on page 47 of 151

I struggle with task initiation.

“Let yourself use 5 percent energy to do 5 percent of the task. Maybe you keep going. Maybe you don't. That's okay.
Anything worth doing is worth doing partially.”

— Oct 28, 2025 11:10AM

Tiffani is on page 30 of 151

“It's easier to tolerate the repetitive nature of care tasks if we let go of moral messages and isolate the functional reason for doing them.”

— Oct 19, 2025 02:30PM

Tiffani is on page 12 of 151

“That I could consider nighttime prep as a kindness to morning me changed my entire relationship with care tasks.”

— Oct 06, 2025 01:14PM

Tiffani is on page 10 of 151

“Morality concerns itself with the goodness or badness of your character and the rightness or wrongness of decisions... How you relate to care tasks-whether you are clean or dirty, messy or tidy, organized or unorganized-has absolutely no bearing on whether you are a good enough person.”

— Oct 06, 2025 01:11PM

Tiffani is on page 8 of 151

“When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.”

— Oct 06, 2025 01:04PM

Tiffani is on page 7 of 151

“You don't exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.”

— Oct 06, 2025 01:01PM

Tiffani is on page 6 of 151

“When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame.”

— Oct 06, 2025 12:56PM

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“…the gulf between what we know in our minds and what we feel in our hearts is often an insurmountable distance.”

— Oct 06, 2025 12:49PM