Khari’s Reviews > Tired of Trying to Measure Up > Status Update

"Consequently, you develop a shame-based way of looking at yourself. You accept the view that others might slip up and make mistakes once in a while, but they're still basically worthwhile people. You, however, are a like a mirror image of that: No matter how many times you get it right (whatever it is, according to ...your environment) you will never be acceptable. Down deep, you believe something is wrong with you"

"Shame...is not just a feeling, though we often speak of it that way...Shame is the belief or mindset that something is wrong with you. It's something that you can live with and not necessarily be aware of it. It's not that you feel bad about your behavior, it's that you sense or believe you are deficient, defective or worthless as a human being."

Healthy behaviors result from an identity that's healthy and fully based upon God's performance on our behalf.