Angela Blount’s Reviews > At a Loss: Finding Your Way After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death > Status Update

She mentions Microchimerism

"People don't stay in the worst part of their pain long term."

"We also need to practice bearing our feelings, not just avoiding them. As with a broken bone that needs to be still as it heals, what may seem like a time of extended vulnerability may actually be a time of gathering strength."

"Faced with the prospect of investing again in a process where we are keenly aware that things can go wrong, we may be able to use our new found strength to address the fears of another pregnancy. We may feel that we could survive something difficult, because we already have."

"Tangible reminders of the pregnancy or baby can help us to take in the experience of loss. Many people naturally turn to these reminders, and some push themselves to do it in small doses. We might visit the grave, if there is one. Or look at ultrasound pictures. Looking at photos, clothing, or baby toys puts us in touch with the fact that it all really happened."

In his book, The Gift of Grief, Matthew Geweirtz makes a case for what he calls 'surrendering, but not giving in.' The counter-intuitive stance of openness, vulnerability, and engagement with our pain, is actually the source of genuine healing. The approach that takes us beyond survival and back to living."

This is the first mention of anything spiritual, and it's merely describing Yin and Yang in terms of Chinese philosophy.

"The root of the word 'bereavement' means: to be robbed. At some point that feeling, that we've been robbed of something valuable, hits us. And we're furious about it. You may be unclear about who has done the robbing, and exactly why you're angry, but the feeling is real."

"Grief is not a disease, it's not a choice, and it's certainly not something we can ne talked out of."