Jem’s Reviews > Are You Mad at Me? > Status Update

“Healing is a daily practice of having the courage to be with our discomfort.”

“Would you rather endure the short-term discomfort of setting a boundary or the long-term burning resentment of swallowing your needs?”

“The purpose of setting a boundary is to feel more peace within ourselves—not to avoid conflict with other people, and not to exert control over others.”

Notice
Invite
Curiosity
Embrace
Return

“Grief doesn’t go away —it’s part of my body’s topography, like rivers carved into me— but it morphs and changes and moves from the foreground to the background, then to the foreground again.”

“What feels familiar to the body is going to feel safe. What feels unfamiliar to the body is going to feel dangerous (even if it’s not).”

“Most people pleasers were ‘parent pleasers’ first.”